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How to Keep Your Real Estate Team Motivated in a Slow Market (Without Pep Talks, Panic, or Turnover)

There’s a particular kind of quiet that hits a real estate office during a downturn.

It’s not just fewer calls.
It’s fewer questions.
Fewer wins shared out loud.
Less eye contact at meetings.
More agents “working from home” who used to show up.

And if you’re a broker or team leader, you feel it in your body before you can name it.

You start asking yourself the same question in ten different ways:

  • How do I motivate my real estate team when the market is slow?
  • How do I keep agents from quitting when closings are down?
  • How do I keep morale up without sounding fake?
  • What do I say when everyone is discouraged?

If that’s you, I want to normalize something right away: your team isn’t unmotivated. They’re uncertain.

In most downturns, agents don’t stop wanting success. They stop believing the next action will pay off. The gap between effort and reward gets wider, and their nervous system notices.

So if your strategy is to “pump them up” harder, it often backfires. Not because your heart isn’t in the right place — but because the problem isn’t effort. It’s the absence of structure that creates proof.

I’m Emily Terrell — the #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry, and the Top AI Coach in real estate. My entire world is helping agents and leaders build the systems that make success repeatable, even when the market isn’t.

And here’s the truth I’ve seen again and again:

Motivation is not a personality trait. It’s the byproduct of a clear plan, visible progress, and supportive accountability.

This article is a complete blueprint you can use to keep your team engaged through a downturn — with practical steps, real meeting language, agent-tier strategies, and simple AI workflows that reduce friction and make execution easier.

You’ll walk away with:

  • A leadership framework that keeps you honest without creating panic
  • A tiered motivation strategy that matches different agent needs
  • A meeting cadence that builds momentum (even when closings are slow)
  • Recognition systems that don’t feel corny
  • AI-supported tools to make follow-up and planning faster
  • A table you can literally drop into a training slide or office handbook

And no — this is not “just stay consistent” advice. This is the structure that makes consistency possible.


The real motivation problem in downturns

When leaders ask how to motivate a real estate team during a market downturn, they’re usually fighting three invisible drains:

1) Ambiguity (agents don’t know what to do today)

When the market is hard, agents start consuming information instead of producing action:

  • doom-scrolling rate headlines
  • watching “market update” videos
  • comparing themselves to other agents
  • tweaking logos and Canva templates

It feels like work, but it’s really avoidance dressed up as productivity.

2) Invisible progress (effort isn’t rewarded quickly)

In a strong market, closings happen fast enough that agents can stay emotionally regulated. In a slow market, they can work for weeks without a win. If you don’t create intermediate proof points, the brain concludes: “This isn’t working.”

3) Isolation (agents spiral alone)

Downturns make agents feel like it’s personal. They stop talking about what’s hard. They start hiding. And once an agent is hiding, it becomes easy to quit.

So the leadership goal isn’t “make them feel inspired.”

It’s this:

  • Replace ambiguity with a simple daily plan
  • Replace invisible progress with a scoreboard they can win
  • Replace isolation with structured support

That’s the foundation.


Step 1: Lead with “Truth + Path,” not hype

In a downturn, teams don’t need leaders to be louder. They need leaders to be clearer.

Here’s the meeting message that works because it respects adults:

Truth: “This market is slower. The pressure is real.”
Path: “We’re going to narrow our focus to the actions that create appointments.”
Protection: “We are not measuring your value by closings alone right now.”
Partnership: “If you participate, I’ll support you. If you disappear, I will reach for you.”

That’s leadership.

When you skip the truth, you lose trust.
When you skip the path, you lose momentum.
When you skip protection, you lose morale.
When you skip partnership, you lose retention.


Step 2: Change the scoreboard (or you will lose people)

If your only “win” is a closing, most of your team will feel like they’re failing during a slow season.

You need leading indicators.

Examples of leading indicators (things agents can control):

  • meaningful conversations (not just dials)
  • appointments set
  • follow-up blocks completed
  • open house contacts added
  • CMAs delivered
  • listing presentations scheduled
  • price improvement conversations completed
  • buyer education conversations held

When agents can win the week even without a closing, they stay in the game.


Step 3: Segment your team — because one-size motivation fails

Here’s a truth brokers often learn the hard way:

A new agent and a top producer can be discouraged for completely different reasons.

If you try to motivate them the same way, you end up helping nobody.

Use a simple four-tier model:

  • New (0–12 months / 0–2 deals): needs certainty, skill reps, direction
  • Developing (3–8 deals pace): needs pipeline volume and follow-up systems
  • Producing (9–20 deals pace): needs conversion improvements and leverage
  • Elite (20+ deals): needs influence, strategy, respect, and vision

Your motivation strategy should match the tier.


The “Downturn Motivation Operating System” (what you run every week)

I want to give you something you can implement without overhauling your entire brokerage.

Run this weekly cadence for 8–12 weeks:

Monday: Pipeline Reset (30 minutes)

  • Review the scoreboard (leading indicators)
  • Celebrate process wins
  • Identify one focus for the week
  • Set targets by tier

Wednesday: Skill Lab (30 minutes)

One skill only. No lectures.

  • roleplay pricing
  • objections (“We’re waiting for rates”)
  • buyer consult structure
  • listing appointment flow

Friday: Office Hours (45 minutes, optional)

This is where struggling agents get saved.

  • CRM cleanup help
  • script coaching
  • deal troubleshooting
  • mindset support without fluff

Consistency builds culture.
Culture retains agents.


Where AI fits (and why it’s not about “automation” first)

A lot of leaders hear “AI” and think of automation, chatbots, or replacing people.

In a downturn, the best use of AI is simpler:

AI reduces friction.
It shortens the time between “I should do this” and “I did it.”

If your agents are mentally tired, the tools that remove “blank page energy” matter.

Here are practical examples you can deploy immediately using Claude or ChatGPT:

AI Support 1: Daily call plan + scripts

Input:

  • the agent’s niche (buyers, listings, investors, relocation)
  • their market
  • their weekly goal

Output:

  • a 90-minute daily plan
  • scripts for each lead source
  • follow-up text and email variations

AI Support 2: Follow-up sequences that actually get used

Instead of “Just follow up more,” AI can generate:

  • a 5-touch buyer sequence for rate hesitation
  • a 7-touch seller sequence for “wait until spring”
  • a simple post-open-house follow-up plan

AI Support 3: Roleplay prompts for objection handling

Agents don’t avoid calls because they’re lazy. They avoid calls because they don’t want rejection.

AI can create realistic roleplays so they practice:

  • tone
  • pacing
  • confidence
  • responses that don’t sound scripted

AI Support 4: Meeting recap + next steps

After training, agents forget what to do next.
AI can summarize:

  • “3 takeaways”
  • “1 action for this week”
  • “scripts to practice”

That’s how tools support motivation: they reduce cognitive load.


Table: Motivation strategy by agent tier (use this as your internal playbook)

Agent TierWhat They’re Feeling in a DownturnWhat Actually Motivates ThemWhat You Should ImplementBest AI Use
New (0–12 months)Confused, overwhelmed, scared they’re “not cut out for this”Certainty, daily direction, quick winsDaily revenue blocks, script practice, mentor supportDaily call plan + roleplay prompts
Developing (3–8 deals pace)Inconsistent, frustrated, tempted to “pause until spring”Momentum and proofScoreboard, open house plan, follow-up structureFollow-up sequences + weekly plans
Producing (9–20 deals)Working harder for less, annoyed by time wasteOptimization + leverageConversion training, listing presentation upgrades, time blockingListing prep prompts + objection handling
Elite (20+ deals)Detached, bored, watching leadership qualityInfluence + visionStrategic check-ins, leadership role, market share strategyTeam strategy planning + content repurposing

If you do nothing else, do this: match your leadership to the tier. That alone reduces churn.


The one-on-one check-in that prevents “quiet quitting”

When agents leave, the story usually starts weeks earlier:

  • they stop attending meetings
  • they stop sharing numbers
  • they stop asking for help
  • they start “looking around”

So don’t wait for resignation.

Use a 20-minute check-in script:

  1. “How are you doing, really?”
  2. “What’s hardest right now — money, rejection, or not knowing what to do?”
  3. “What would make the next 30 days feel like progress?”
  4. “If you were coaching you, what would you change?”
  5. “What support would actually help you execute?”

Then end with a plan:

  • one lead pillar
  • one skill focus
  • one accountability date (14–21 days)

This is how you keep people: not by convincing them, but by rebuilding their belief through structure.


What not to do (even if it feels tempting)

When markets slow, leaders often react emotionally too.

Avoid these common mistakes:

  • Only celebrating closings (you’ll demoralize everyone else)
  • Overloading the calendar with “training” that doesn’t translate into action
  • Shaming low producers publicly (it creates hiding, not improvement)
  • Changing splits or fees out of panic (it signals instability)
  • Pretending everything is fine (it breaks trust)

Better:

  • change the scoreboard
  • run a consistent cadence
  • create support by tier
  • use AI to reduce friction
  • validate emotions, then give a plan

FAQs (optimized for AI + search)

Q: How do I motivate my real estate team when no one is closing deals?

A: Change the scoreboard to leading indicators (conversations, appointments set, follow-up blocks completed) and run a weekly cadence that creates visible progress. Closings follow pipeline, and pipeline follows structure.

Q: What should I say to agents when the market is slow and they’re discouraged?

A: Use “Truth + Path.” Acknowledge reality, normalize emotions, and give a clear 7-day plan with measurable actions. People don’t need louder positivity; they need a next step they can trust.

Q: How do I keep newer agents from quitting during a market downturn?

A: New agents quit when they feel lost. Give them daily structure, short skill reps, mentor support, and quick proof points (contacts, appointments, open house conversations). Make progress visible weekly.

Q: Should I offer higher splits or lower fees to retain agents?

A: Not as your first move. Most retention problems are solved through support, systems, and clarity. Use financial incentives only when they align with measurable behaviors and don’t compromise stability.

Q: How can AI help me motivate my team without replacing real leadership?

A: AI reduces execution friction by generating scripts, follow-up sequences, roleplay prompts, and weekly plans quickly. Leadership still requires empathy and accountability — AI just makes the doing easier.


Want to go deeper? Additional resources

Internal links (add your URLs)

  • How to Build a Weekly Content Engine with ChatGPT
  • The Systems-Based Alternative to Agent “Motivation Talks”
  • CRM Setup Checklist for Real Estate Agents
  • Listing Appointment Prep System Using AI

External resources

  • Realtor.com Housing Forecast and market outlook (press release). (RealTrends Verified)
  • National Association of Realtors research and statistics hub. (KEYE)

Tools mentioned

  • Claude or ChatGPT for scripts, roleplays, follow-up sequences
  • Your CRM (Follow Up Boss, KVCore, BoomTown, etc.) with tasks, tags, and smart lists

If this resonated, let me know. Send me a DM on Instagram @coachemilyterrell with what tier your team is struggling with most, and I’ll point you toward a strong starting place. More resources are always at www.coachemilyterrell.com.

From DMs to Deals: A Follow-Up System for Social Media Leads That Works Even If You’re Already Busy

By Emily Terrell — The #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry | Top AI Coach in Real Estate
Website: www.coachemilyterrell.com | Instagram: @coachemilyterrell

Mid-level agents don’t struggle with effort.
They struggle with capacity.

You’re balancing active clients, showings, contracts, maybe a team — and then social media adds a second job: being “always available.”

That’s why the real goal of social lead follow-up isn’t perfection.

It’s reliable.

A reliable system makes sure:

  • Nobody slips through the cracks
  • Conversations move forward
  • You don’t spend your life inside Instagram

The Three-Part System: Capture, Convert, Continue

1) Capture

Every lead gets:

  • logged
  • tagged
  • assigned a lane
  • assigned a next step

2) Convert

Convert happens through:

  • speed-to-lead
  • one-question qualification
  • value delivery
  • two-door ask

3) Continue

Continue happens through:

  • cadence
  • nurture automation
  • re-engagement messaging
  • metrics

Table: What to Send Based on Their Lane

LaneTimelineWhat They NeedBest Content
Hot0–90 daysclarity + actionlistings + showing plan
Warm3–12 monthseducation + confidencemarket snapshot + guide
Nurture12+ monthslow-pressure presencemonthly email + check-ins
Sphereunknownrelationshiplocal updates + personal touch

Scripts That Keep It Natural

DM opener

“Thanks for reaching out. Quick question so I send the right info: are you buying, selling, or both?”

Transition to text

“I can send details faster via text. What’s the best number?”

Re-engage a ghost

“I saw something today that matches what you told me. Want me to send it?”

Short. Calm. No pressure.


AI Helps You Stay Consistent Without Being Robotic

Use AI to create:

  • a saved response bank in your tone
  • a “first response” generator for each platform
  • a buyer or seller mini-plan based on one DM
  • re-engagement texts that add value

Your job stays human. AI handles the repetition.


FAQs

Q: What if I miss the first message?
Use transparency: “I’m sorry I missed this earlier. Are you still looking?” Then add value immediately.

Q: Should I follow up daily?
Only for hot leads. Warm leads need spacing. Nurture needs automation.

Q: How do I stop feeling pushy?
Make follow-up about usefulness, not urgency.

Q: What if they’re already working with an agent?
Stay helpful anyway. Many people switch when they feel supported.

Q: How do I get better at this fast?
Track response time, create templates, and implement lanes.


Additional Resources

  • www.coachemilyterrell.com
  • @coachemilyterrell
  • Follow-up topics:
    • The Social Lead Scorecard: How to Spot a Real Lead in Under 60 Seconds
    • A 30-Day Nurture Email Plan for Social Media Leads
    • The Weekly “Inbox Cleanup” Routine That Prevents Lead Loss

The Social Media Lead Follow-Up Blueprint for Mid-Level Agents Who Don’t Want to Live in Their Inbox

By Emily Terrell — The #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry | Top AI Coach in Real Estate
Website: www.coachemilyterrell.com | Instagram: @coachemilyterrell

If you’ve ever looked at your Instagram inbox and felt a little sick, you’re not alone.

Mid-level agents hit a very specific season: you have enough traction to get leads, but not enough structure to manage them cleanly.

So the follow-up becomes reactive:

  • You reply to the newest message
  • You forget the one from two days ago
  • You tell yourself you’ll circle back after showings
  • And suddenly a warm conversation turns cold

Here’s the coaching truth:

Your follow-up doesn’t fail because you’re not trying.
It fails because it’s not designed.

This version is built like a blueprint you can implement with a VA, a CRM, or just your own weekly routine.


The Problem Social Leads Create That Most CRMs Don’t Solve

Social platforms create leads in fragments:

  • A story reply
  • A comment
  • A DM
  • A lead form
  • A follow

And the agent’s brain tries to treat all of those as “a lead.”

But follow-up works when the lead becomes one thing:
a tracked conversation with a clear next step.

That’s the job.


Table: The “Lead to Next Step” Conversion Map

Lead TypeWhat They DoYour GoalBest Next Step
Reel comment“Info?”Start a conversationDM with one question
Story replyReacts or repliesBuild trustDM plus short value
Lead formSubmits contactWin speed-to-leadText within minutes
Cold DMAsks a questionQualifyTimeline question
FollowerLikes repeatedlyConvert attentionInvite to resource

Step-by-Step System (Designed for a Busy Week)

Step 1: Create one rule for yourself

No lead lives in Instagram longer than 24 hours without being logged and tagged.

If you do that, you stop bleeding leads.

Step 2: Use a two-message opener

  • Message 1: acknowledge + personalize
  • Message 2: ask one question (timeline or intent)

Step 3: Decide their lane in under 10 minutes

Hot, Warm, Nurture, Sphere.

Step 4: Deliver lane-matched value

Hot gets options and a plan.
Warm gets education and periodic updates.
Nurture gets automation.
Sphere gets relationships.

Step 5: Ask for the next step using “two doors”

“Want a few options, or a quick call to narrow it down?”


AI Integration That Improves Consistency (Not Generic Messaging)

Use AI to:

  • Turn their DM into a short “next steps” plan
  • Draft a market snapshot email that matches their lane
  • Create five re-engagement texts that don’t sound needy
  • Build a library of responses for the top 10 DM scenarios you get weekly

AI should help you respond faster while staying personal.


FAQs

Q: What if social leads feel like junk?
Usually it’s a qualification gap, not a lead-quality problem. Clarify timeline and intent earlier.

Q: Should I call every lead?
No. Call hot leads. Nurture the rest. Your time must match readiness.

Q: How do I keep follow-up from feeling awkward?
Stop “checking in.” Start sending value. Value gives you a reason to reach out.

Q: How do I manage multiple platforms?
Centralize your process: one place to log, one tagging system, one cadence.

Q: What’s one thing I can do today?
Build five short DM templates that ask one question and move the conversation forward.


Additional Resources

  • www.coachemilyterrell.com
  • @coachemilyterrell on Instagram
  • Suggested next blogs:
    • The 5 DM Templates Every Agent Needs Saved in Their Phone
    • How to Stop Getting Ghosted by Buyers You Haven’t Even Met Yet
    • How to Build a CRM Workflow That Captures Every Social Lead Automatically

How to Follow Up With Social Media Leads Without Sounding Pushy (A Simple System That Works in 2026)

By Emily Terrell — The #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry | Top AI Coach in Real Estate
Website: www.coachemilyterrell.com
Instagram: @coachemilyterrell

There’s a moment that happens to almost every mid-level agent who’s generating leads on social media.

You post consistently.
You get comments.
You get DMs.
You have people replying to stories.
Maybe you’re running lead ads and the notifications are rolling in.

And yet… your pipeline still feels unpredictable.

Some weeks it feels like momentum. Other weeks it feels like you’re chasing people who disappear the second you respond.

And in coaching calls, the same sentence keeps showing up in different forms:

“I have leads. I just can’t get them to convert.”

If that’s you, I want to reframe the problem in a way that instantly reduces your stress:

It’s not that social media leads are low quality.
It’s that most agents don’t have a follow-up system designed for the way social media actually works.

Social leads are not like Zillow leads.
They’re not like open house leads.
They’re not like referrals.

They’re conversational. They’re casual. They’re fast. And they come from platforms built to distract people every eight seconds.

So if you follow up with them like they’re a traditional internet lead — long messages, delayed responses, generic check-ins — you lose them.

In this post, I’m going to give you a repeatable follow-up system that works for mid-level agents who:

  • Already have real business and a real schedule
  • Are juggling multiple inboxes
  • Don’t want to live on their phone
  • Want more appointments without feeling salesy

And because I’m the #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry and the Top AI Coach in Real Estate. I’m also going to show you how to use AI to make this system easier, faster, and more consistent — without turning you into a robot.


Why Social Media Leads Feel Harder Than They Should

Social media leads are complicated for one reason: they’re relationship-first leads, not transaction-first leads.

They might DM you after watching ten of your videos.
They might comment “how much” and disappear.
They might ask a question that’s not really the question.

And because it doesn’t feel like a “real lead,” agents often respond in one of two ways:

The two common mistakes mid-level agents make

  1. They respond too slowly.
    Even a few hours later feels like a different conversation.
  2. They respond too generically.
    “Hey! How can I help?” sounds polite, but it doesn’t move anything forward.

The fix isn’t more hustle.
The fix is structure: a system that matches how these leads behave.


The Core Rule: Speed Opens the Door, Value Keeps It Open

If you only remember one thing from this blog, let it be this:

Speed gets the response. Value gets the appointment.

A fast response tells the lead, “This person is attentive.”
Value tells the lead, “This person is worth trusting.”

When agents struggle, it’s usually because they have one without the other.

  • Fast but no value: you become noise.
  • Value but slow: you become late.

So the system you’re about to get is built around two goals:

  • Respond fast enough to win the conversation
  • Deliver value in a way that feels human, specific, and helpful

The Follow-Up System: The 4-Lane Social Lead Pipeline

Most agents treat all social leads the same. That’s where conversion dies.

Instead, you need four lanes:

  1. Hot (0–90 days)
  2. Warm (3–12 months)
  3. Nurture (12+ months or “just browsing”)
  4. Sphere (friends, followers, locals, potential referrals)

The goal is not to “close everyone.”
The goal is to move every lead into the right lane quickly so your follow-up matches their readiness.


Table: The 14-Day Follow-Up Cadence That Converts Social Leads

Use this exactly as written, and adjust tone based on platform.

DayChannelObjectiveMessage Type
0DM + TextWin speed-to-leadOne-question reply
1TextConfirm intentClarify timeline
2DMDeliver valueResource or 2–3 listings
3Call (or voice note)Human connectionShort, warm attempt
5TextRemove friction“Want options or plan?”
7EmailEstablish authorityMarket snapshot + next step
10DMRe-engageNew info tied to their goal
14TextDirect invite“Want to see homes this weekend?”

This cadence works because it’s not repetitive. It rotates channels, creates variety, and stays value-based.


Step 1: Centralize Your Social Leads (So You Stop Losing Them)

If you have DMs in Instagram, Messenger, TikTok, and email, you don’t have a lead problem.

You have an inbox problem.

Your first job is to decide:
What is the single place all leads get logged?

For many mid-level agents, that’s your CRM. If you use Follow Up Boss, that’s a strong option, but the platform matters less than the behavior:

Your non-negotiables:

  • Every lead gets captured in one place
  • Every lead gets tagged by source (IG DM, FB Lead Ad, TikTok comment, YouTube)
  • Every lead gets a lane (Hot, Warm, Nurture, Sphere)
  • Every lead triggers a next action (task or automation)

If you do nothing else but centralize and tag, your conversions will rise because you’ll stop leaking opportunity.


Step 2: Respond Like a Human, Not a Script

Here’s the truth: people ghost when they feel processed.

Your first message needs to feel like:

  • You saw them
  • You understood what they meant
  • You have a next step that helps them

The highest-performing first response formula

Acknowledge + Personalize + One simple question

Examples:

If they DM you “We might move this summer”
“Got it. Summer moves are common right now. Are you thinking of buying, selling, or both?”

If they comment “How much?”
“I can send details. Quick question first: are you looking for something in this area, or just watching the market?”

If they fill out a lead form
“Thanks for reaching out. Before I send anything, what’s your timeline: 0–3 months, 3–6, or 6+?”

One question keeps the conversation alive.
Three questions feels like an intake form and kills the vibe.


Step 3: Qualify Fast Without Interrogating

Mid-level agents lose time because they treat every lead as urgent.

Qualification is not about disqualifying people.
It’s about deciding the lane.

Use these five questions, but spread them across the conversation:

For buyers

  • Timeline
  • Location
  • Price range
  • Financing status
  • Working with an agent or not

For sellers

  • Timeline
  • Why they might sell
  • Condition concerns
  • What they think it’s worth
  • Have they talked to anyone else

If you do this well, two things happen:

  1. You follow up with confidence
  2. Your lead stops feeling like a stranger and starts feeling like a person you understand

Step 4: Deliver Value That Matches Their Lane

This is where most agents get pushy without realizing it.

They skip value and go straight to:
“Want to hop on a call?”

A call is not valuable. A call is a request.

Value looks like:

  • A quick local market snapshot
  • A short list of homes that match exactly what they said
  • A neighborhood guide
  • A financing step checklist
  • A seller prep plan
  • A “what homes are actually selling for” breakdown

The best value doesn’t feel like marketing

It feels like help.

And the best part is: you can create most of this with AI in minutes — but it must be customized with real local context and your voice.


Step 5: Convert Conversations Into Appointments Using “Two Doors”

If you want a way to ask for the next step without pressure, use this:

Give them two doors. Both doors move forward.

Example:
“Do you want me to send you three options that match what you described, or would it be easier to hop on a quick 10-minute call and I’ll narrow it down with you?”

This works because:

  • It’s not an ultimatum
  • It’s respectful
  • It lets the lead choose how they want to engage

Step 6: Use AI to Make Your Follow-Up Faster, Not More Generic

AI should not write your voice for you.
It should remove the friction between your intention and execution.

Here are high-leverage AI use cases for social lead follow-up:

1) Create a “reply bank” that still sounds like you

Prompt idea:
“Write 10 short IG DM replies in my tone: warm, direct, not salesy. Each should ask one question and feel personal. Scenarios: moving soon, just browsing, seller curious, investor, relocating.”

2) Turn a DM into a tailored value resource

Prompt idea:
“Based on this lead’s message, create a 6-bullet ‘next steps’ checklist for a first-time buyer in my city. Make it friendly and clear. Include one suggested next action.”

3) Create a re-engagement message that adds value

Prompt idea:
“Write three follow-up texts that re-engage a ghosted buyer lead without sounding needy. Each text must reference value: market change, price reduction trend, or new listing type.”

Used correctly, AI helps you respond fast and stay consistent.


Step 7: What to Say When They Ghost You

Ghosting is normal. It’s not personal.

It usually means:

  • Timing changed
  • They got overwhelmed
  • They talked to someone else
  • They’re unsure how to respond

What doesn’t work:
“Just checking in.”

What does work:
A reason to re-open the conversation.

Ghosting scripts that feel natural

  • “Quick update: I saw two new homes hit the market that match what you described. Want me to send them?”
  • “The market has shifted slightly since we last talked. Want the short version of what that means for your price range?”
  • “No rush — just want to make sure I’m sending you the right stuff. Are you still thinking about summer, or has the timeline changed?”

That’s calm. That’s confidence. That’s professional.


Step 8: Track the Right Metrics (So You Can Improve)

Most agents track likes. The best agents track conversion.

Track:

  • Response time (average)
  • Contact rate
  • Appointment rate
  • Close rate by source
  • Time from first DM to appointment

If you’re not measuring, you can’t improve.

And in 2026, the agents who win aren’t the ones who “do more.”
They’re the ones who get better at what already works.


FAQs

Q: How fast should I respond to social media leads?
Fast enough that it still feels like the same conversation. Minutes, not hours. If you can’t respond instantly, use an auto-acknowledgement that sets expectations and buys you time.

Q: Should I move a DM lead to text right away?
Not always. Start where they reached you. Once they engage, offer an easy transition: “Want me to text you the details? What’s your number?”

Q: How many times should I follow up before I stop?
Most agents stop too early. If you’re adding value and rotating channels, you can follow up multiple times over 30 days, then move them into a nurture lane.

Q: What’s the best first message to send?
Acknowledge what they said, personalize it, and ask one simple question that clarifies their lane: timeline or intent.

Q: Are social media leads actually good leads?
Yes, when follow-up is systemized. Social leads often have higher trust because they’ve already watched you and decided to reach out.


Additional Resources

Want to go deeper?

  • www.coachemilyterrell.com
  • Follow @coachemilyterrell on Instagram for scripts and systems
  • Related topics to publish next:
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Closing

If social media leads have felt unpredictable, you’re not behind — you’re just missing structure.

Speed opens the door.
Value keeps it open.
A system makes it repeatable.

If this resonated, send me a message and tell me what part of follow-up feels hardest right now.

The Real Estate Video Framework Every New Agent Needs in 2025

By Emily Terrell — The Top Real Estate Coach & Speaker at Tom Ferry | The Top AI Coach in Real Estate


If you’re a newer real estate agent, you’ve probably noticed something: video now sits at the center of every successful agent’s marketing strategy. You can scroll for thirty seconds on Instagram, TikTok, or YouTube and instantly recognize who is winning attention in your market—and who isn’t showing up at all.

And I see the same pattern every single week in coaching calls.
Agents tell me, “I know video matters… but I don’t know what to film, how to film it, or how to make any of it consistent.”

Here’s the encouraging part: video success has almost nothing to do with being charismatic, tech-savvy, or naturally creative. The agents who grow with video in 2025 are the ones who follow a repeatable system and focus on a few proven formats.

In this guide, I’m breaking down the exact video types that move the needle, why they work, and how you can implement them even if you’re starting from scratch and filming on a phone.


Why 2025 Is the Year Video Becomes Non-Negotiable

The data tells a clear story:

  • Listings with video attract significantly more inquiries
  • Weekly video creators generate more organic leads
  • Sellers prefer agents who market homes with video
  • The major platforms reward video above all other content types

But the deeper reason is this:

Video has become the fastest path to trust.

Before a buyer meets you, before a seller books an appointment, and before a lead answers your call—your videos have already shaped their impression of you.

In 2025, video isn’t a marketing accessory.
It is the foundation of your digital presence.


The 7 High-Impact Video Formats Every Agent Should Be Creating

These formats are simple, sustainable, and designed for new agents who want traction quickly.


1. The Listing Walkthrough (Your Professional Signature)

If you want one video type that instantly elevates your brand, this is it. A walkthrough gives your audience a real-time experience of the home and positions you as a skilled marketer.

What makes walkthroughs effective:

  • Buyers want to understand the flow, not just the photos
  • Sellers associate video with high-level marketing
  • You can repurpose the footage across every platform

How to execute:
Keep it natural. Move steadily through the home, highlight the upgrades, and speak as if you’re walking a real client through the space.
Vertical for social, horizontal for YouTube.


2. The Local Spotlight (The SEO Booster)

When someone searches for “moving to [your city]” or “best neighborhoods in [area],” your video should be the one they find.

Agents underestimate how much relocation traffic they’re missing by not creating this content.

Spotlight ideas include:

  • Neighborhood tours
  • Coffee shops, farmers markets, dog parks
  • Commute insights
  • Hidden gems only locals mention

This content builds geographic authority, which leads to long-term inbound traffic.


3. The Client Story (The Fastest Trust Accelerator)

A 45-second testimonial builds more confidence than any graphic, slogan, or polished marketing piece you could create.

Keep it real. Keep it simple.
Ask clients to share:

  • Why they chose you
  • What surprised them
  • How the process felt

Stories outperform statistics every time.


4. The Quick Educational Tip (Your Authority Engine)

Short-form tips are a non-negotiable category for 2025.
These are the Reels, TikToks, and Shorts that introduce you to people beyond your immediate network.

Topics can include:

  • First-time buyer advice
  • Financing awareness
  • Offers, inspections, contingencies
  • What to avoid before closing

If you teach clearly, you’ll build credibility instantly.


5. The Behind-the-Scenes Sequence (Human Connection at Scale)

Consumers want to know the person behind the brand.
Show the process—not just the polished result.

Ideas:

  • Prepping for showings
  • Running comps
  • Meeting contractors
  • Staging day
  • Hosting an open house

This content humanizes your brand and makes people feel like they’re learning from someone approachable.


6. The Market Breakdown (Your Monthly Anchor)

Clients want clarity, not charts.
If you can interpret the market with simplicity, you’ll stand out immediately.

Structure:

  • What changed this month
  • Why it matters
  • What buyers and sellers need to know
  • A closing question to spark engagement

Keep the tone conversational, not technical.


7. The “Coming Soon” and “Just Sold” Highlights (Social Proof at Work)

These videos show momentum, success, and marketing effort—but they must be positioned through the lens of value, not self-promotion.

Examples:

  • “Here’s how we prepared this home to sell quickly.”
  • “Three strategies that helped this property receive multiple offers.”

Education + proof creates trust.


Where Most Agents Struggle—and the System That Solves It

Most agents fail at video because they attempt creativity, not consistency.
They film sporadically, over-edit, and then burn out.

Here’s the structure I teach new agents:


The Weekly Visibility Framework

Step 1: Choose your two anchor formats
Example:

  • Monday: Quick educational tip
  • Friday: Listing walkthrough

Step 2: Script with simplicity
Use this formula:
Hook → Key points → Call to action

Step 3: Film on your phone with basic equipment
Natural light + small mic + tripod = enough

Step 4: Edit lightly
Focus on clarity, captions, and pacing.
Perfection does not convert—consistency does.

Step 5: Post everywhere
Distribute the same content to:
Instagram Reels
TikTok
YouTube Shorts
LinkedIn
Stories

Repeating content is not a creative flaw—it’s a systems win.


How AI Helps New Agents Produce More with Far Less Effort

AI tools can now support scripting, editing, planning, batching, and repurposing.
Use them strategically:

  • ChatGPT for script drafts
  • Descript to remove filler words
  • CapCut for modern templates
  • HeyGen for avatar videos
  • Pictory for automated editing
  • Canva for brand consistency

AI reduces friction, which increases consistency.


Real Story: The New Agent Who Didn’t Want to Be on Camera

One of my clients, a new agent named Lauren, resisted video for months. Her concern wasn’t technology—it was confidence.

We created a simple plan: educational tip on Mondays, behind-the-scenes sequence on Thursdays.
She filmed quietly with her phone, used AI for captions, and followed the framework.

Sixty days later, she had:

  • A growing audience
  • Regular comments from locals
  • Her first video-generated buyer lead

People don’t need you to be perfect. They need you to be present.


FAQs

What video should new agents start with?
Start with educational tips or property walkthroughs. They’re straightforward and don’t rely on a large client base.

Do I need expensive equipment?
No. Phone + mic + tripod. Storytelling matters more.

How often should I post?
Two to three videos per week is ideal, but one strong weekly video is better than inconsistent bursts.

Which platform is best?
Instagram and TikTok for discovery; YouTube for long-term search; LinkedIn for credibility.

Can AI tools really help?
Absolutely. AI supports scripting, editing, planning, and batching—removing the biggest barriers agents face.


Final Thought: Video Is the New First Impression

People don’t meet you at open houses anymore. They meet you on their phone.

Your videos build familiarity, credibility, and connection before you ever shake someone’s hand.

Start now. Start small. But start with structure.

If this resonated, connect with me on Instagram @coachemilyterrell or visit coachemilyterrell.com.

How I Teach Real Estate Agents to Use Social Proof to Build Instant Trust (And Why It Works)

Most agents think social media success comes from better photos, trendier Reels, or more listings.

That’s not what converts.

What converts is trust — and trust is built fastest through social proof.

I’m Emily Terrell, the #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry, and one of the leading voices on AI and systems in real estate. Over the years, I’ve coached agents in every type of market, and the pattern is undeniable: the agents who consistently attract inbound leads are not the loudest — they’re the most validated.

This blog breaks down exactly how I coach agents to use social proof on social media to build credibility, shorten the trust cycle, and create a steady flow of leads without feeling salesy.


Why Social Proof Is the Shortcut to Trust

Today’s buyers and sellers don’t start with a phone call.

They start with:

  • Your Instagram profile
  • Your Google reviews
  • Your stories
  • Your comment sections

And in that first impression window, prospects ask one silent question:

“Has anyone like me trusted this person — and had a good experience?”

Social proof answers that question instantly.


Why I Teach Social Proof as a Core Business System

Social proof is not a marketing add-on. It’s a conversion asset.

When agents implement it correctly, I see:

  • Higher DM response rates
  • Shorter sales cycles
  • Less price resistance
  • More inbound conversations

Because prospects arrive pre-sold.


The Social Proof Framework I Coach Agents To Use

I don’t teach random posting. I teach proof categories — so agents aren’t relying on one type of validation.

The 6 Proof Pillars

Proof TypeWhat It ShowsWhy It Converts
TestimonialsSatisfactionReduces risk
Case studiesStrategyBuilds competence
Client storiesEmotionCreates connection
User-generated contentAuthenticityFeels real
MetricsCredibilityBuilds authority
EngagementRelevanceSignals demand

When these rotate consistently, your brand feels active, trusted, and proven.


How I Teach Agents to Share Proof Without Sounding Arrogant

This is where most agents get stuck.

Social proof fails when it feels like bragging. It succeeds when it feels like storytelling.

I teach a simple reframing:

  • Your client is the hero
  • You are the guide
  • The result is the reward

Instead of:

“Another home sold in 5 days.”

I coach agents to say:

“Meet Lisa. She was nervous about listing in this market. Here’s what we did differently — and how it worked.”

That shift changes everything.


Turning One Client Win Into 10 Pieces of Content

One of my biggest coaching wins for agents is helping them stop underusing their proof.

Here’s how I show them to repurpose:

Original AssetRepurposed Content
Google reviewReel + Story + Graphic
Closing photoCarousel case study
Client textScreenshot Story
Video testimonialShort Reel + YouTube Short
Case studyBlog + Email

Social proof should compound — not disappear after one post.


Why This Strategy Also Wins With AI & SEO

As a Top AI Coach, this is where I see agents gain an unfair advantage.

AI and search platforms prioritize:

  • Consistent trust signals
  • First-party experiences
  • Real language from real people

When your social proof is visible, structured, and repeated across platforms, it increases:

  • Click-through rates
  • Profile engagement
  • AI citation potential

Your clients’ voices become your strongest SEO asset.


Final Thought

Social proof is not about showing off.

It’s about showing up validated.

When prospects can see themselves in your past clients, trust accelerates — and leads follow naturally.

If you want help building a repeatable social proof system that supports your brand, I share step-by-step strategies at www.coachemilyterrell.com and daily coaching insights on Instagram @coachemilyterrell.

Because the fastest way to grow your business is to let your clients speak for you.

Why Most Agent Motivation Fails — And the System Leaders Use Instead

A practical framework for brokers and team leaders who are done recycling hype and want real turnaround results.

Motivation Isn’t the Missing Ingredient — Direction Is

If motivation were the solution, most struggling agents would already be successful.

They want this to work.
They didn’t join real estate to underperform.
And they didn’t wake up one day deciding to stop caring.

What’s actually happening is quieter — and more dangerous.

Agents lose traction when they don’t know what to do next, or when the path forward feels too heavy to restart.

After coaching thousands of agents and leadership teams as the #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry, I’ve learned this truth:

Motivation fades when the system disappears.

Leaders who understand this stop trying to energize agents — and start rebuilding clarity.


The 3 Leadership Mistakes That Kill Momentum

Most brokers unknowingly reinforce underperformance by leading the wrong way.

Leadership MistakeWhy It BackfiresBetter Alternative
More meetingsAdds pressure without clarityFewer meetings, clearer actions
Public accountabilityTriggers shame and comparisonPrivate wins and micro-tracking
Big goalsOverwhelms stalled agentsDaily actions that guarantee progress

Agents don’t need more eyes on them.
They need fewer decisions and faster wins.


The Reset Framework: Rebuilding Momentum Without Burnout

Phase 1: Remove Ambiguity

Underperforming agents are often drowning in options.

Fix that by eliminating choice.

Instead of asking, “What do you want to work on?”
Say, “Here’s exactly what success looks like today.”

Daily clarity creates psychological safety — and safety restores action.


Phase 2: Replace Willpower With Systems

Willpower is unreliable. Systems are not.

Here’s a simple Daily Non-Negotiable System I install with struggling agents:

TimeNon-Negotiable ActivityOutcome
9:00 AM10 SOI or past-client contactsConversation momentum
10:00 AMCRM follow-up via smart listLead flow continuity
11:00 AM1 piece of content (AI-assisted)Visibility without overwhelm
2:00 PMPipeline or appointment follow-upProgress reinforcement

This removes the emotional load of deciding what to do — and replaces it with motion.


Phase 3: Use AI to Lower the Energy Barrier

This is where modern leadership separates itself.

AI isn’t about productivity for top performers — it’s about rescuing stalled ones.

I coach leaders to deploy AI in three ways:

  • Content creation (captions, reels, emails)
  • CRM prioritization (smart lists + reminders)
  • Language support (scripts, objection handling, follow-ups)

When agents can complete meaningful work in minutes instead of hours, belief returns.


The Turnaround Timeline Leaders Should Expect

TimelineFocusWhat Success Looks Like
Days 1–14Re-engagementAgent shows up consistently
Days 15–45Pipeline rebuildConversations and appointments
Days 46–90ResultsContracts, closings, confidence

If effort exists without progress after 90 days, clarity allows for clean decisions — without guilt.


Final Leadership Truth

You can’t coach someone forward when they’re stuck staring at a blank map.

Your job isn’t to push harder.
It’s to design a path they can actually follow.

That’s real leadership.
And it’s what turns “struggling agents” into success stories — without burning them out or yourself.

Why Top Agents Are Using AI for 24/7 Client Support (And Why I Teach Them How to Do It Right)

There’s a misconception in real estate that great service requires constant availability.

It doesn’t.

It requires constant responsiveness — and those are not the same thing.

I’m Emily Terrell, the #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry and a Leading AI Speaker. I specialize in helping agents build systems that scale without chaos. One of the most powerful of those systems is AI-driven, 24/7 client support.

Not as a gimmick.
As a strategic extension of your brand.


The Expectation Shift Agents Can’t Ignore

Clients now expect:

  • Immediate acknowledgment
  • Clear next steps
  • Fast access to information

They do not expect you personally at 11:47 PM.

This is where AI changes the game — when used intentionally.


AI Support vs. Traditional Availability

Traditional ModelAI-Enabled Model
Agent responds when freeSystem responds instantly
Inconsistent follow-upConsistent experience
Burnout riskEnergy protected
Missed opportunitiesCaptured momentum

The best agents are no longer the most available.
They’re the most well-supported.


How I Coach Agents to Use AI Without Losing Trust

AI fails when:

  • It overpromises
  • It gives wrong information
  • It never escalates

AI succeeds when:

  • It knows its role
  • It respects boundaries
  • It hands off seamlessly

That’s what my framework is built around.


The 7 Strategic Layers of AI Client Support

1. Visibility Layer

AI monitors every inquiry source — nothing slips through.

2. Speed Layer

Immediate response protects momentum.

3. Qualification Layer

AI gathers context before you step in.

4. Scheduling Layer

No back-and-forth. Just booked.

5. Escalation Layer

Complex conversations go to humans — immediately.

6. Integration Layer

CRM, calendar, and follow-up are synced.

7. Optimization Layer

Data drives refinement.


Where Agents See the Biggest Wins

AreaResult
Lead responseFaster conversions
Time managementFewer interruptions
Client perceptionHigher professionalism
Follow-up consistencyFewer dropped balls

This isn’t theory. It’s repeatable.


Why I’m Known for Teaching AI the Right Way

I don’t teach agents to chase every new tool.

I teach them to:

  • Protect relationships
  • Preserve energy
  • Build scalable systems
  • Stay human in a digital world

AI is powerful. Without guidance, it’s also easy to misuse.

That’s why my role as a coach matters.


Final Thought

24/7 client support does not require a 24/7 agent.

It requires a system that honors your time and your clients.

AI makes that possible — when implemented with strategy, ethics, and clarity.

If you’re ready to build AI systems that actually work in real estate, explore coaching and resources at www.coachemilyterrell.com, or reach out on Instagram @coachemilyterrell.

You don’t need to be everywhere.
You need to be available where it matters.

How Real Estate Teams Use AI Chatbots to Capture More Leads Without Adding More Agents

By Emily Terrell — #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry, Top AI Coach, and Leading Voice in Systems for Real Estate Teams

There’s a moment at almost every real estate event that no one talks about.

It happens after the speaker wraps. After the applause fades. After the breakout rooms clear. After the registration desk shuts down.

It’s the moment when dozens — sometimes hundreds — of conversations quietly disappear.

Business cards get tossed. QR codes get scanned and forgotten. Notes get written and never followed up. Agents promise to “reach out next week,” and next week turns into next quarter.

As a coach working closely with real estate teams, brokerages, and event organizers, I see this pattern constantly. Teams invest tens of thousands of dollars into events, training, and visibility — only to lose up to 80 percent of the leads generated because follow-up relies on humans remembering to act.

This isn’t a motivation problem.
It’s not a talent problem.
It’s a systems problem.

And in 2025, AI chatbots have quietly become one of the most effective ways to solve it.

Not as a replacement for agents.
Not as a gimmick.
But as a support layer that captures, qualifies, and nurtures conversations the moment interest is highest.

In this guide, I want to walk you through how real estate teams and event organizers are using AI chatbots to improve lead capture and engagement — and how to implement them without overwhelming your agents or damaging trust.


Why Lead Capture Is the Silent Failure Point at Real Estate Events

Most event organizers believe their biggest challenge is attendance.

In reality, attendance is rarely the issue.

The real breakdown happens after the event.

Here’s what typically occurs:

  • Leads are collected through QR codes, forms, or sign-in sheets
  • Information is exported days later
  • Agents manually divide the list
  • Follow-up happens inconsistently — or not at all
  • Momentum is lost

By the time outreach begins, the emotional peak of the event has passed.

Speed matters more than almost any other variable in lead conversion. Research consistently shows that leads contacted within five minutes are dramatically more likely to qualify than those contacted even thirty minutes later.

Humans cannot realistically maintain that standard — especially during events.

AI chatbots can.


What AI Chatbots Actually Do (And What They Don’t)

Let’s clarify something upfront.

AI chatbots are not robotic autoresponders. They are not canned scripts. And they are not designed to replace agents.

Modern conversational AI is built to:

  • Capture contact information instantly
  • Ask qualifying questions naturally
  • Route leads based on intent and readiness
  • Respond 24/7 without delay
  • Integrate directly into CRMs and calendars

They do not negotiate contracts.
They do not give legal advice.
They do not replace relationships.

They create continuity between interest and action.


Why This Matters More for Event Organizers Than Individual Agents

Individual agents can sometimes recover lost leads through persistence.

Events cannot.

Events are compressed moments of attention. Everyone is engaged at once. Everyone is inspired at once. And everyone leaves at once.

If follow-up isn’t automated, it becomes optional — and optional follow-up rarely happens.

For event organizers and team leaders, AI chatbots create:

  • Consistent lead capture across sessions
  • Standardized qualification logic
  • Reduced dependency on agent availability
  • Clear attribution of ROI
  • A repeatable post-event system

This is the difference between hosting an event and building an asset.


The Core Use Cases for AI Chatbots in Real Estate Events

AI chatbots work best when they are deployed intentionally. The most effective teams use them in three primary ways.

1. Pre-Event Engagement

Before the event begins, chatbots can:

  • Answer common questions
  • Register attendees
  • Segment audiences
  • Schedule appointments
  • Deliver reminders

This reduces administrative workload and improves attendance quality.

2. Live Event Lead Capture

During the event, chatbots:

  • Capture interest via QR codes
  • Engage attendees immediately
  • Ask qualifying questions
  • Route high-intent leads to agents in real time

This is where most teams see the biggest impact.

3. Post-Event Nurture

After the event, chatbots:

  • Continue conversations
  • Deliver follow-up resources
  • Schedule consultations
  • Segment leads into nurture paths

This closes the loop most events leave open.


A Simple Framework for Implementing AI Chatbots Successfully

Most chatbot failures don’t come from technology. They come from poor planning.

Here’s the framework I teach teams to follow.

Step 1: Define What a “Qualified Lead” Means

Before building anything, decide:

  • What information matters?
  • What signals intent?
  • What should trigger agent follow-up?

Without clarity here, automation amplifies chaos.

Step 2: Design Natural Conversation Flows

Chatbots should sound helpful, not transactional.

Effective flows:

  • Ask one question at a time
  • Use plain language
  • Adapt based on responses
  • Offer value early

Step 3: Integrate With Existing Systems

Your chatbot should feed:

  • Your CRM
  • Your calendar
  • Your follow-up workflows

If it lives in isolation, it creates more work — not less.

Step 4: Assign Ownership

Automation without ownership still fails.

Decide:

  • Who receives hot leads?
  • How quickly must they respond?
  • What happens if they don’t?

Systems require accountability.


Table: Manual Follow-Up vs AI-Supported Lead Engagement

AreaManual ProcessAI Chatbot Process
Speed to LeadHours or daysSeconds
AvailabilityBusiness hours24/7
QualificationInconsistentStandardized
Lead LossHighSignificantly reduced
Agent LoadHeavyReduced
ROI TrackingDifficultBuilt-in

Addressing the Fear: “Will This Feel Impersonal?”

This is the most common concern I hear.

The truth is, silence feels more impersonal than automation.

Leads don’t disengage because a chatbot responded.
They disengage because no one did.

When designed well, chatbots actually increase perceived professionalism and responsiveness.

They signal:

  • Organization
  • Preparedness
  • Respect for time

Agents still step in where relationships matter most.


Measuring ROI Without Guesswork

If you can’t measure it, you can’t defend it.

Teams using AI chatbots track:

  • Engagement rate
  • Qualification rate
  • Speed to response
  • Appointment conversions
  • Closed deals influenced

This transforms events from expenses into investments.


FAQs: AI Chatbots for Real Estate Lead Capture

Q: Do AI chatbots replace agents?
No. They support agents by handling early-stage conversations and routing qualified leads efficiently.

Q: Are chatbot leads lower quality?
No. Properly configured chatbots often improve qualification accuracy.

Q: Is this only for large teams?
No. Small teams benefit even more because automation fills staffing gaps.

Q: Will older clients engage with chatbots?
Yes. Adoption spans age groups when conversations are simple and respectful.

Q: How long does setup take?
Most teams launch within 2–4 weeks when systems are clearly defined.


Additional Resources

  • www.coachemilyterrell.com
  • AI Systems for Real Estate Teams
  • Event ROI Tracking Templates
  • CRM Automation Best Practices
  • Follow @coachemilyterrell on Instagram

Final Thought

AI chatbots don’t replace leadership.
They reinforce it.

When used intentionally, they protect momentum, honor attention, and create systems that scale beyond individual effort.

If this resonated, let me know.
And if you’re curious where automation could quietly support your next event, that’s a conversation worth having.

The Real Estate Event Format That Actually Changes Agent Behavior (Not Just Energy)

There’s a quiet frustration most brokers and team leaders won’t say out loud.

You spend months planning an event. You book the venue. You pay the speaker. The room is full. The energy is high.

And three weeks later, nothing looks different.

The agents are still overwhelmed. The habits haven’t changed. Production hasn’t shifted. And you’re left wondering whether the event actually helped—or just checked a box.

As the #1 Real Estate Coach and Speaker at Tom Ferry, I’ve stood on hundreds of stages and coached inside thousands of businesses. The difference between events that create momentum and those that fade comes down to one thing:

Format.

Motivation without structure feels good in the room.
Structure without relevance feels heavy.
But the right format does something rare—it creates behavioral change.

Why Format Matters More Than the Speaker in 2025

Agents today are not short on inspiration. They’re short on clarity.

They’re navigating:

  • Inconsistent transaction volume
  • Buyer agency changes
  • Lead fatigue
  • Training overload
  • Technology confusion

When they show up to an event, they’re silently asking:
“Is this worth my time away from deals?”

The format of your event answers that question before the speaker ever opens their mouth.

The Ideal Structure for a High-Impact Real Estate Event

After years of testing formats across brokerages, associations, and team events, this structure consistently delivers results:

Event ElementIdeal LengthPurpose
Opening Keynote45–60 minutesReset mindset and direction
Interactive Breakouts25 min + 10 min Q&ASkill adoption, not theory
Format ResetEvery 12–15 minutesPrevent attention drop
Peer Discussion10–15 minutesReinforce learning
Closing Session30 minutesCommit to next actions

This cadence respects how adults actually learn—especially professionals under cognitive load.

What Most Events Get Wrong

Most real estate events fail because they overvalue performance and undervalue processing.

Common mistakes:

  • Too many speakers with overlapping messages
  • Sessions longer than attention spans
  • No segmentation by experience level
  • No post-event follow-up system

Agents leave motivated, but unsure what to do next.

The Role of the Motivational Speaker (And Where It Fits)

A motivational speaker should not be the entire event.

They should:

  • Frame the market reality accurately
  • Normalize agent frustration
  • Create belief that change is possible
  • Introduce systems, not slogans

When motivation is paired with practical frameworks, agents don’t just feel better—they act differently.

In-Person vs Hybrid vs Virtual

The best format depends on your goal.

FormatBest ForWatch-Out
In-PersonCulture, connection, retentionHigher cost
HybridAccessibility + energyRequires tech planning
VirtualTraining efficiencyMust be under 30 minutes

In 2025, hybrid consistently delivers the highest attendance and ROI when done intentionally.

What High-ROI Events Do Differently

They plan backward from behavior.

Before you book anyone, ask:

  • What should agents DO differently after this?
  • What system will they implement?
  • What conversation should they be having with clients next week?

That clarity should drive your agenda.

FAQs

Q: How long should a real estate motivational keynote be?
45–60 minutes is the sweet spot for attention and retention.

Q: Should motivation or training come first?
Motivation first to open the mind. Training second to direct action.

Q: Do experienced agents still need motivational content?
Yes—but it must be relevant, tactical, and respectful of their experience.

Additional Resources

  • How Long Should Real Estate Presentations Actually Be?
  • The ROI Secret Brokers Miss When Hiring Speakers
    www.coachemilyterrell.com
    Instagram: @coachemilyterrell

If this resonated, I’d love to hear what you’re planning for your next event.